"whaaaat? really? why? you guys were doing so well, no???"

Quite high percentage of my friends couples who were living together broke up in the end.
Even though each couples looked like they're doing well...

Every time I heard the news of broken up from each couples,
I really couldn't understand why they ended up in that way.
'cause each couples were doing so well( as far as i concerned ),
and they didn't even have a big issue or something.
so I've been wondering the reason why for quite long time...

...

well, this world is a big.
In the States, there is a scholar who was wondering exactly same thing what i was wondering.
and he did very interesting experimentation.

◆ how to make your relationship successful!?

psychologist; Roger Rosenblatt has done really interesting experimentation.
He asked 4 questions for couples who are living together and couple who are marriend

・ Do you sleep always same side of bed?

・ Do you have your own mug?

・ Do you have a wardrobe for each?

・ Do you have your own private space to put your small things?

As a result, marrige couples answered "yes" more than living together couples.


For human being territory is also very important like other animals
even though we don't think and feel about it.

For example,
when someone who is not close to you suddenly come close to you,
you would feel very or more land less uncomfortable, no?
that feeling IS your territory.
Clearly you don't want that person to be close to you.

We can say same thing for couples who are living together.
When you make sure that you and your partner have own territory,
that mean you're understanding each other by each not by "together".


When you share your territor with your partner,
it does look like you are close to him as much as you share.
But in fact
if you and your partner don't make sure about each territory,
it means you cannot accept your partner as much as you can,
and your partner is like air for you.

In Japanese we often say " he/she is like air to me! ".
( which means the parson is so use to being with him/her like air!)

Timing and power are very important to get married with your partner.
If you become "like air" to your partner
( or if you partner become like air to you),
There is no way we can find timing and power. （^-^；）

So what is important not to become "like air"?

I think you all guessed.
Yes, we need to have own territory.
It's very important to have your own private time and space without your partner.
( it doesn't need to be a big territory,
for example, you get your own mug or get tiny space!)

It's a small thing though, it will help a lot to make your relationship to be completed.

Women often would try to restrict men's time and space though,
if you would like to have happy future with your partner, then be patient!

I know it's easy to understand in the head,
but it's tough to bring it out for real.（^-^；）　

You don't need to do big thing.
Why don't you try slowly and start from small things which you think you can?

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◆　afterwords

i am working hard to finish e-book for relationship.
I am writing about how can we success to get his heart?
Plus!
I am planning to give this e-book for free.

It's free though, there is so many things which are really usefull.
People around me are telling me it's much more useful than other similar e-books.
I will start it free!!

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